Today is my 19th anniversary. Fortunately, I did find true love and have lived relatively happily after all.
Out of curiosity, I did some research on the state of marriage in the United States these days. Turns out, according to Pew Research, over 1/2 of Americans still get married, with college graduates being even more likely to put a ring on it. These stats are staying fairly stable.
For some reason, divorce rates among older Americans have increased. But those 50 and older are more likely to co-habitat with a partner.
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, you can break things down even more along age, race, educational, class, etc. lines. Still, regardless of these factors, education level still seems to play a role in how likely someone is to get married. I’m fascinated. The divorce rates also seem to be lower.
Now for the fuzzy part of this post.
A few things I’ve learned in my almost two decades as a married person:
- Treat the word “love” as a verb. Show your partner your love each day. Live it.
- Recommit yourself to your marriage every day and especially on the hardest days.
- Have your own interests and do your own thing sometimes.
- Admit when you make a mistake. Apologize and mean it.
- Be kind.
- If you don’t like something, change yourself. Don’t try to change your partner. It doesn’t work.
- You don’t have to be perfect.
I’ll be hanging out by myself because my husband has one of those jobs that keeps him away during the week. But he is always in my heart and usually just a text message away. We’ll celebrate in a week or so when we’re both in the same state at the same time. I was an Army wife for many years and learned that celebrations are special because of what you’re celebrating, not because of the day you celebrate them.